How Your Life Can Be Different If You Work To Change How
You Experience And Express Your Anger
by Dave Decker
M.A.
An important part of changing any attitude or behavior that
is not helpful to us is to clearly identify the very real benefits of
actually making this change. You have to be able to visualize “a
different you” if what you do with your anger is going to actually
be different. Below
are some of the reasons that people have given to help motivate themselves
to do the hard work of changing this important aspect of themselves. See
if they make sense to you and then think about and add some of your
own as a way to motivate yourself to do what you need to do to change.
“What will my life look like and feel like if
I make the decision to change how I experience and express my anger?"
- I WILL FEEL BETTER ABOUT MYSELF: I WILL EXPERIENCE MORE
SELF-ESTEEM, MORE
SELF-RESPECT, AND MORE SELF-CONFIDENCE
- I WILL BE CLOSER TO OTHER PEOPLE AND HAVE MORE MEANINGFUL RELATIONSHIPS
- I WILL FEEL AS IF I AM A REAL PART OF MY FAMILY
- I WILL FEEL MORE GENUINE
- I WILL FEEL CALMER AND MORE RELAXED
- I WILL FEEL LOVED, SUPPORTED, RESPECTED, AND TRUSTED BY OTHERS
- I WILL BE MORE LOVING, SUPPORTIVE, RESPECTFUL,
AND TRUSTING OF OTHERS
- I WILL BE LESS STRESSED, TENSE, ANXIOUS, AND DEPRESSED
- I WILL FEEL LESS FEAR AND ANXIETY
- I WILL EXPERIENCE LESS GUILT AND REMORSE ABOUT WHAT
I HAVE SAID AND DONE
- I WILL HAVE MORE SELF-CONTROL
- I WILL BE ABLE TO ACCEPT MORE PERSONAL RESPONSIBILITY FOR MY THOUGHTS,
FEELINGS, AND ACTIONS
- I WILL BE ABLE TO HANDLE PROBLEMS IN MY LIFE AND CONFLICTS
WITH OTHERS
MORE EFFECTIVELY WHEN THEY DO ARISE
- I WILL BE ABLE TO IDENTIFY AND EXPRESS MORE OF WHAT I
ACTUALLY THINK, FEEL,
WANT, AND NEED
- I WILL BE MORE ASSERTIVE, OPEN, AND HONEST IN MY INTERACTIONS
WITH OTHERS
- I WILL BE MORE POSITIVE AND DEVELOP MORE POSITIVE “MOMENTUM” IN
THE LIVING OF MY LIFE
- I WILL BE MORE LIKELY TO ENJOY MY LIFE AND MY TIME WITH OTHERS
- I WILL BE MORE FOCUSED ON THE PRESENT RATHER THAN THE
PAST OR THE FUTURE
- I WILL EXPERIENCE FEWER PHYSICAL SYMPTOMS
- I WILL EXPERIENCE FEWER NEGATIVE CONSEQUENCES AND MORE
POSITIVE REWARDS
- I WILL EXPERIENCE A SENSE OF EMPOWERMENT AND A STRONGER
SENSE OF PERSONAL POWER
IN MY DAY-TO-DAY LIVING
- I WILL BE MORE HAPPY AND FEEL MORE JOY IN MY LIFE
- I WILL BE MORE FLEXIBLE AND MORE OPEN TO PEOPLE AND
SITUATIONS AROUND
ME
- I WILL BE MORE WILLING TO TAKE INITIATIVE AND TO TAKE
MORE POSITIVE RISKS IN MY DAILY LIFE
- I WILL BE MORE ACCEPTING OF PEOPLE AND SITUATIONS IN
MY LIFE AND MORE
ABLE TO “LET GO” OF WHAT I CAN’T CONTROL
- I WILL EXPERIENCE A STRONGER SENSE OF SERENITY
AND PEACEFULNESS IN MY LIFE
- OTHERS ARE MORE LIKELY TO BE OPEN AND HONEST WITH ME
- OTHERS CAN TRUST ME AND FEEL SAFE AROUND ME
- MY CHILDREN WON’T END UP HANDLING THEIR ANGER POORLY
WHEN THEY GET
OLDER
© 1985 David J. Decker,
MA, LP
Phone: 612-725-8402 or 651-646-4325 - www.ANGEResources.com
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